Congratulations! The Catholic Church congratulates you on your decision to marry. Our aim is to support you in making your marriage the best possible.

The marriage preparation courses run in the Archdiocese of Wellington are designed to give you and your partner time to discuss and reflect upon important topics.

Marriage Preparation Courses

The marriage preparation courses include: how our family of origin affects the way we communicate; developing a shared understanding of marriage; intimate communication; managing conflict, intimacy and sexuality, and the Sacrament of Marriage, all from a Catholic perspective.

There are two parts to the Archdiocese’s marriage preparation programme, COMMIT and Love is a Decision. These courses are designed to build strong foundations for a lasting marriage. All are welcome regardless of religious belief. The course facilitators are trained married couples, and the courses give you:
Quality time together with your partner;
Real life experience shared by married couples;
Relationship education.


Is an inventory-based programme conducted over two sessions. It is an opportunity for a couple to reflect on their relationship at a moment in time, identifying strengths, challenges and areas of growth. This is the beginning of your marriage preparation. For COMMIT a facilitator will contact you both to discuss a suitable time and place to meet. Click here to register for the Commit course.

Felicity Giltrap, Marriage Programmes Coordinator 04 496 1719

Marriage Preparation Archdiocese of Wellington

Love is a decision

Is a group marriage preparation course run over two consecutive Sundays. It is designed to encourage quality time between you and your partner to discuss important topics. 

There are four Love is a Decision courses in 2019. The courses are held in central Wellington and run from 10.00am – 4.00pm on each Sunday. The dates for 2019 are:
March 3 and 10, June 9 and 16, August 18 and 25, November 17 and 24.

The cost is $130 per couple. To book or find out more information please contact:    04 496 1719

COMMIT and Love is a Decision are very popular, and you need to book early to ensure a place (at least six months before your wedding).

Engaged Encounter

Is a live out weekend group course. It is a weekend course to plan your marriage and discuss important topics together. The cost is $180 per couple. The last date for 2019 is 9-10 November.

Getting married in New Zealand or overseas

All Catholic marriages require pre-nuptial papers to be completed with a priest. Whether you are getting married in New Zealand or overseas it is essential that you contact your parish priest as soon as possible to arrange an appointment to complete the marriage papers.

Marriage papers are required for all weddings, both in and outside the church building. It is especially important if your marriage is taking place overseas or in another diocese in New Zealand. Your marriage papers are prepared in the place where you currently reside.

If your wedding is to be held outside the church, or in another New Zealand diocese or overseas, the papers are forwarded by your priest to the Vicar General, Monsignor Gerard Burns in the Wellington Archdiocese. He will then provide any further documentation required.

The marriage papers are then sent to the bishop’s representative (Vicar General or Vicar for Marriages) in the diocese where you are being married.  They are then forwarded to the priest who will officiate at your wedding. Please allow at least 6 months for this process.

Felicity Giltrap, Marriage Ministries

My role with the Marriage, Family and Young Church Ministries Team is to coordinate marriage preparation programmes in the Archdiocese of Wellington. These include the Commit and Love Is A Decision programmes. I oversee a team of volunteers involved in this marriage education. I also look after the archive records of marriages in the Archdiocese. Perhaps my best formation for this role has been my own twenty-five years of marriage to Rob and the experience of raising our two children in a mixed faith home. Please contact me if I can help.

Marriage Preparation Archdiocese of Wellington

Felicity Giltrap, Consultant: Marriage Ministries, 04 496 1719