Marriage Preparation

Congratulations! The Catholic Church congratulates you on your decision to marry. Our aim is to support you in making your marriage the best possible. The marriage preparation courses run in the Archdiocese of Wellington are designed to give you and your partner time to discuss and reflect upon important topics.

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Marriage Preparation Courses Archdiocese of Wellington during the Covid-19 pandemic.

During the pandemic we are offering couples three pathways to choose from in order to complete Catholic Marriage Preparation.

If you have questions and would like to talk about which Marriage Preparation pathway in the Archdiocese of Wellington is right for you, please do not hesitate to contact, Felicity Giltrap, Consultant, Marriage Ministries, 04 496 1719

Marriage Ministries Archdiocese of Wellington

OPTION 1: Commit Questionaire Programme with a Wellington Archdiocesan Marriage Educator and the “Love is a Decision” face to face group course.

The Commit and Love is a Decision programmes are designed to be completed together. By doing both of these courses, couples are involved in a comprehensive package in order to prepare for the Sacrament of Marriage.

When you register for the “Love is a Decision” face to face course, you are automatically registered for the Commit Questionaire introductory programme. An Archdiocesan Marriage Educator will contact you directly to complete the Commit course before you attend the face to face group course “Love is a Decision”. The total cost for option 1 is $130.00 per couple

Face to Face course dates for 2021/2022:



May, June, September and November courses will also be scheduled in 2022. (Covid-19 alert level dependent). A certificate of completion is issued following the completion of the course.

COMMIT runs from 1 February to 30 November each year. Commit can also be booked separately. Please contact Felicity at or (04) 496 1719 to discuss.

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OPTION 2: Online course called ‘SmartLoving Engaged’ accompanied by a Wellington Marriage Educator sponsor couple.

The Archdiocese of Wellington have partnered with the SmartLoving team to provide an innovative online course during the Covid-19 pandemic.

SmartLoving Engaged is an online Catholic marriage preparation course for engaged couples. Consisting of 9 lessons, a couple can progress through the course at their own pace and will receive a certificate of completion at the end. After enrolling you will be contacted by Felicity Giltrap who will pair you with Archdiocesan Marriage Educators who will be your Sponsor couple. The cost for option 2 is AUD $99.00 Register for the course here:

OPTION 3: Engaged Encounter weekend course

Catholic Engaged Encounter is a worldwide marriage preparation course for couples contemplating marriage, whether already engaged or just thinking about a future together. It strengthens commitment by providing the opportunity for couples to think about many different aspects of married life, asking themselves (and their partner) the hard questions or the very obvious but unspoken ones. The weekend “away from it all” helps iron out many issues that could be major hurdles or challenges to compatibility. It gives couples an unparalleled opportunity to form a closer bond to each other and create a proven and solid foundation for a happy future.

The weekend in Wellington is open to any engaged couple wanting to prepare for a deeper, more meaningful life together in a marriage recognised by the Catholic Church. It is open to couples of other faiths, or couples with no particular church experience. We do not seek to convert anyone who attends. The weekend is focused on your relationship. The cost for option 3 is $180.00

Engaged Encounter weekend dates for 2022 are:

19th and 20th March 2022

16th and 17th July 2022

12th and 13th November 2022. 

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Getting married in New Zealand or overseas

All Catholic marriages require pre-nuptial papers to be completed with a priest. Whether you are getting married in New Zealand or overseas it is essential that you contact your parish priest as soon as possible to arrange an appointment to complete the marriage papers.

Marriage papers are required for all weddings, both in and outside the church building. It is especially important if your marriage is taking place overseas or in another diocese in New Zealand. Your marriage papers are prepared in the place where you currently reside.

If your wedding is to be held outside the church, or in another New Zealand diocese or overseas, the papers are forwarded by your priest to the Vicar General, Monsignor Gerard Burns in the Wellington Archdiocese. He will then provide any further documentation required.

The marriage papers are then sent to the bishop’s representative (Vicar General or Vicar for Marriages) in the diocese where you are being married.  They are then forwarded to the priest who will officiate at your wedding. Please allow at least 6 months for this process.

Felicity Giltrap, Marriage Ministries

My role with the Church Mission Team is to coordinate marriage preparation programmes in the Archdiocese of Wellington. These include the Commit and Love Is A Decision programmes. I oversee a team of volunteers involved in this marriage education. My role also extends to working in the Marriage Vicariate for the Vicar General, Msgr Gerard Burns. I am available to answer requests for assistance with baptismal records for the purposes of marriage and assist with sending marriage documentation overseas for weddings. I also oversee the marriage records in the Archdiocese. I hold a qualification in pastoral ministry and have a love of music and liturgy. I have been married to Rob in a mixed-faith marriage for twenty-seven years and we have two adult children. Please contact me if I can help.

Marriage Ministries Archdiocese of Wellington
Felicity Giltrap
Consultant – Marriage Ministries, or (04)4961719