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Marriage Preparation

The Marriage Ministries office is now open. Please contact us at marriage@wn.catholic.org.nz for all inquiries about our courses in 2022. Bookings can be made now via the online forms below and will be fully confirmed by the Church Mission Team by email or phone within a few days. For urgent inquiries about pre-nuptial marriage papers and overseas dossier transfers please contact the Vicar General – Archdiocese of Wellington, Msgr Gerard Burns at g.burns@wn.catholic.org.nz. Ngā mihi nui.

Marriage Preparation Courses in the Archdiocese of Wellington during the Covid-19 pandemic.

During the pandemic we are offering couples three pathways to choose from in order to complete Catholic Marriage Preparation.

Face to Face courses – Option 1 and Option 3 require participants to be fully vaccinated and to provide a current vaccine certificate on each day of the course.

If you have questions and would like to talk about which Marriage Preparation pathway in the Archdiocese of Wellington is right for you, please do not hesitate to contact, Felicity Giltrap, Consultant, Marriage Ministries, marriage@wn.catholic.org.nz 04 496 1719

Marriage Ministries Archdiocese of Wellington

OPTION 1: Commit Questionaire Programme with a Wellington Archdiocesan Marriage Educator and the “Love is a Decision” face to face group course.

The Commit and Love is a Decision programmes are designed to be completed together. By doing both of these courses, couples are involved in a comprehensive package in order to prepare for the Sacrament of Marriage.

When you register for the “Love is a Decision” face to face course, you are automatically registered for the Commit Questionaire introductory programme. An Archdiocesan Marriage Educator will contact you directly to complete the Commit course before you attend the face to face group course “Love is a Decision”. The total cost for option 1 is $130.00 per couple

Face to Face course dates for 2022:


September 11 and 18, 2022 REGISTRATIONS OPEN mid 2022

November 6 and 13 REGISTRATIONS OPEN mid 2022

Courses are (Covid-19 alert system dependent). All face to face courses require participants to be fully vaccinated. A certificate of completion is issued following the completion of the course.

COMMIT runs from 1 February to 30 November each year. Commit can also be booked separately. Please contact Felicity at marriage@wn.catholic.org.nz or (04) 496 1719 to discuss.

  • For more information about Commit click below:
  • For more information about Love is a Decision click below:

OPTION 2: Online course called ‘SmartLoving Engaged’ accompanied by a Wellington Marriage Educator sponsor

The Archdiocese of Wellington have partnered with the SmartLoving team to provide an innovative online course during the Covid-19 pandemic.

SmartLoving Engaged is an online Catholic marriage preparation course for engaged couples. Consisting of 9 lessons, a couple can progress through the course at their own pace over approximately 9 weeks and will receive a certificate of completion at the end. After enrolling you will be contacted by an Archdiocesan representative who will accompany you to complete the course. The cost for option 2 is AUD $99.00. Please contact Felicity Giltrap at marriage@wn.catholic.org.nz if you would like to receive the link to register for this course.

OPTION 3: Engaged Encounter weekend course

Catholic Engaged Encounter is a worldwide marriage preparation course for couples contemplating marriage, whether already engaged or just thinking about a future together. It strengthens commitment by providing the opportunity for couples to think about many different aspects of married life, asking themselves (and their partner) the hard questions or the very obvious but unspoken ones. The weekend “away from it all” helps iron out many issues that could be major hurdles or challenges to compatibility. It gives couples an unparalleled opportunity to form a closer bond to each other and create a proven and solid foundation for a happy future.

The weekend in Wellington is open to any engaged couple wanting to prepare for a deeper, more meaningful life together in a marriage recognised by the Catholic Church. It is open to couples of other faiths, or couples with no particular church experience. We do not seek to convert anyone who attends. The weekend is focused on your relationship. The cost for option 3 is $180.00

Engaged Encounter weekend dates for 2022 are:

16th and 17th July 2022

12th and 13th November 2022. 

For more information and to book visit: http://www.cee-wellington.co.nz/

Getting married in New Zealand or overseas

All Catholic marriages require pre-nuptial papers to be completed with a priest. Whether you are getting married in New Zealand or overseas it is essential that you contact your parish priest as soon as possible to arrange an appointment to complete the marriage papers.

Marriage papers are required for all weddings, both in and outside the church building. It is especially important if your marriage is taking place overseas or in another diocese in New Zealand. Your marriage papers are prepared in the place where you currently reside.

If your wedding is to be held outside the church, or in another New Zealand diocese or overseas, the papers are forwarded by your priest to the Vicar General, Monsignor Gerard Burns in the Wellington Archdiocese. He will then provide any further documentation required.

The marriage papers are then sent to the bishop’s representative (Vicar General or Vicar for Marriages) in the diocese where you are being married.  They are then forwarded to the priest who will officiate at your wedding. Please allow at least 6 months for this process. To request a helpful brochure that the team have put together about this process, please email Felicity at marriage@wn.catholic.org.nz for the ‘Planning your wedding’ brochure for 2022.

Felicity Giltrap, Marriage Ministries

My role with the Church Mission Team is to coordinate marriage preparation programmes in the Archdiocese of Wellington. These include the Commit and Love Is A Decision programmes. I oversee a team of volunteers involved in this marriage education. My role also extends to working in the Marriage Vicariate for the Vicar General, Msgr Gerard Burns. I am available to answer requests for assistance with baptismal records for the purposes of marriage and assist with sending marriage documentation overseas for weddings. I also oversee the marriage records in the Archdiocese. I hold a qualification in pastoral ministry and have a love of music and liturgy. I have been married to Rob in a mixed-faith marriage for twenty-seven years and we have two adult children. Please contact me if I can help.

Marriage Ministries Archdiocese of Wellington
Felicity Giltrap
Consultant – Marriage Ministries, marriage@wn.catholic.org.nz or (04)4961719